Most endeavors have a process. An example on my mind recently is the process of having a new structure approved in our neighborhood. Before you rant in the comments about the evils of homeowners' associations, we are not one of those that regulate the type of mailbox, hoses, etc. that a house should display. Our process is simple and quick. Still, it is a process.
Having a novel published is a process as well. Either write a query letter directly to the publisher or find an agent who will help you. Of course, that means sending a query letter to an agent. In that letter you need to wow that person with why your story is worthy of publishing. A knock 'em dead synopsis is necessary.
After you have sent your thrills a minute query letter extolling your virtues as a writer, you wait, sometimes for months.
Of course, you could also, as a writer, go to conventions, workshops, or writing groups to hone your skills. These are all good options while you wait.
Guess what? I don't want to go through those hoops convincing someone to take a chance on me. This, however, does not mean that I will stop writing. I will just not submit my self and my tender feelings to the process. Do you have any idea how many would-be authors are out there? Many more than you think.
Could I go the route that my husband has and self-publish? Sure. Maybe I will. Yet, to be honest I do not have the ambition required to gleefully go through the hoops. I am going to finish the novel on which I am working. I will somehow make the entire novel, complete with the letters that I have been withholding, available for distribution. If you think someone should read it, please pass it on or send them the link to the e-book or to order a print copy if I get that far.
Hoops just aren't for me. In fact, they are depressing to me. Not such a great philosophy, huh?