This summer, my husband and I have been invited to two weddings. Both are on dates that we cannot attend due to prior commitments. The last wedding we attended was shortly after Phill had his first seizure. He faltered at finding words. He was not himself. My association of that difficult time and weddings is hard to ignore. He no longer has problems finding words while on his current medication, so I know that he won't have time congratulating the couple or the parents or interacting with other guests.
Still, I am loathe to go to a wedding.
The ceremonies are long, filled with readings by brothers, cousins, and whoevers. Some have an entire mass. I sit in the pew hoping that each ceremony will be short, Princess Bride short. In fact, I probably wouldn't have had a ceremony if it were not for family wishes. A piece of a paper would have been enough for me. Maybe I would have had a good party for my friends and family.
I know. I know. You are going to comment that attending a wedding ceremony is to show your support for the newlyweds. Yes. Yes. Sure. Don't even point out that a religious wedding ceremony is also fulfilling some requirement of god to go forth and multiply. I know all that.
I show my support for the couple by buying them something from their wish list. A big thing. We don't buy salad tongs. We go for the big items.
My problem with weddings these days is that how overboard people go on spending. If you have to take out a loan for your wedding--you have spent too much. That ceremony is one day, maybe two or three if you host a breakfast or rehearsal dinner. That dress will be worn once. The bridesmaids will hate their dresses and won't ever look at what you made them wear again. Have a wedding ceremony, but remember that beginning in debt isn't a great way to begin a marriage.
Have I griped enough? Did I give sufficient evidence that I have become a grouch?
What about you? Do you enjoy attending wedding ceremonies? What do you like or dislike about them?