Tuesday, May 09, 2006

Try to stay away and what happens?

I get angry. Angry about the attitude towards women who choose abortion (surgical or chemical).

See, apparently it is only the woman's fault for getting pregnant when she didn't want it in the first place.

That woman must be completely selfish.

That woman must not care. She must be callous. She has no heart. She is a baby killer. Horrid woman.

Of course, so many people who criticize and condemn the woman seeking an abortion never see the pain she feels, the nightmares she has, the life long wondering.

Be clear on my own position on this contentious issue: I am for a woman's privacy and domain over her own body. I could not choose an abortion unless my health was seriously at risk or if I had been raped. I do not believe that government has a role in this issue at all. Preach at the women who are seeking an abortion if you are against it. Stay around and help her with that child if you manage to talk her out of it. Don't just preach and think everything will be all cheery. It won't.

Damn you people. I wanted a break!

8 comments:

jarhead john said...

I haven't posted a darned thing promoting the outlawing of abortion. I simply state that, in most cases, it's downright wrong. Sure, if the pregnancy will kill the mother, in cases of rape or incest, if the child has a defect that will kill it anyway, I'm inclined to think that it's not a bad idea. However, far too many women abort their children because it's simply inconvenient for them to raise a child. THAT'S my line that I feel cannot be crossed. Combine that with the actions of the pro choice folks and I just get disgusted. Don't get me wrong, I get equally disgusted with the actions of the pro life fanatics (bombing abortion clinics? Yeah, that's really "pro life"). Unfortunately, the only way that I can see to prevent the aborting of kids out of convenience is to enact laws preventing it. Equally unfortunate is the fact that any law that is passed will not be intelligently structured, and will contain so much B.S. that it won't even serve it's intended purpose. It's a lose/lose situation.

jarhead john said...

On a side note; if you want a break, take a break! It's a shame that there's no similar medicine to that stuff you put on kids' nails to prevent them from biting them. You know, if you type on your keyboard, you get a horrible taste in your mouth and puke.

I don't usually find myself in the situation of needing a break from blogging. My job usually dictates my level of availability of online time. I guess that I'm fortunate.

Anonymous said...

Jarhead John is sure up in everyone's business. Why is having an abortion "downright wrong"?

He can't read minds. He doesn't know why a woman decides to have an abortion, the thoughts she struggles with to come to that decision. He has no idea. How arrogant to simply say far too many women abort for convenience!

It's her right. It's her body. Not his. Dumb ass. He made me angry too.

Sues said...

He said in MOST cases it's downright wrong, not all cases. And, yeah, I agree, using abortion as birth control IS wrong.

There are so many birth control choices out there right now- including the morning after pill. I'm not saying that abortions should be outlawed. I feel that they are justified in a lot of cases. But using abortion as a method of birth control because you are too lazy to use real birth control is 'downright' wrong.

Sarabeth said...

JJ--I do not want any laws enacted telling me, my sister, my cousins, yes, even my daughters, what they can do with their own bodies.

Having domain over our reproductive ability is important. We aren't free unless we possess that ability. Margaret Sanger said it best, No woman can call herself free who does not own and control her body. No woman can call herself free until she can choose consciously whether she will or will not be a mother.

Sarabeth said...

Well, JJ, you shook me out of my apathy at least. That's worth something. I no longer need that break.

Amka said...

Uhm, well...

I guess I feel that it isn't just about the woman's body. I just can't see a good line between when it is a human individual and when it is just an embryo. When does that human get rights too? I cannot with integrity side with the idea that we should let the woman choose, no matter how unpopular it is.

I know it is a rough stance to take, but pregnancy is one of the risks of sex, even when protection is used. If that consequence occurs, then both the woman and man are responsible. Unfortunately, the man can just run away. That is what makes us women angry and want to say "It's our choice."

But biology hasn't been fair to us that way. It is we who find ourselves hooked up to another individual whose life depends upon us choosing to let them live.

My mom was urged to have an abortion with me. My sister is adopted, the product of an unintended pregnancy. There are more options out there. Unfortunately, for some awful reason, they've managed to villify adoption as an acceptable option. I'm truly disappointed that abortion or keeping the baby seem to be the only alternatives being talked about.

All of that said, I feel that a better way to prevent abortion would be to educate women. Not just about abortion, but educate them period - give them a choice that is actually more meaningful: what career will they be successful in? How do they establish a relationship with a man that won't shirk his responsibility? And educate the men too. Perhaps abandoning a woman who has become pregnant by him should become prosecutable. And having the man push for an abortion is a problem too. That's a problem to be addressed.

Sarabeth said...

There are more options out there. Unfortunately, for some awful reason, they've managed to villify adoption as an acceptable option. I'm truly disappointed that abortion or keeping the baby seem to be the only alternatives being talked about.

All of that said, I feel that a better way to prevent abortion would be to educate women. Not just about abortion, but educate them period - give them a choice that is actually more meaningful: what career will they be successful in? How do they establish a relationship with a man that won't shirk his responsibility? And educate the men too. Perhaps abandoning a woman who has become pregnant by him should become prosecutable. And having the man push for an abortion is a problem too. That's a problem to be addressed.


Amka, I don't disagree with any of this. I just don't want any one to legislate the choices.

I don't get angry because men can walk away. I simply get riled up when someone wants to impose their morality on me. Is it life after the sperm fertilizes the egg? Yes. Is ti independent life? Not to me. I do have a line for when a life is viable outside of a woman's womb. However, I'm am not religious. I do not believe in souls. I can also be a heartless SOB.